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Dear Sexpert, I don't know if this is unusual, but my boyfriend is ticklish and it is hard to be intimate because he says he cannot get in the mood. He says it distracts him and he loses the arousal..I know he enjoys sex and we have a good relationship, but this has really been bothering me and has affected our sex life What should we do? Helen
Dear Helen, In my workshops as well as in my office, I have come across men and women whereby they are ticklish all over. I was also one of those people until I decided to do somethng about it and that was to desensitize my skin. Start with an area that is less ticklish and for ten minutes use firm pressure with a thumb. Then in the same area use your knuckles for ten minutes in a circular motion. After that use your finger pads, not tips with firm pressure in a circular movement. Lastly, for ten minutes use the tips of your fingers or fingernails. Firm pressure is the key at first, then go back to the start and use a lighter touch. Go back to the same sequence and each time of the sequence keep making the pressure lighter and lighter. Your partner needs to take slow deep breaths and stopping you along the way if it gets too uncomfortable. A little discomfort is expected but push through it with him.. Continue to do this same exercise with different parts of his body. You will not need to do every square inch because the body has a great way of generalizing to other parts.
Good luck and Good sex
Lori
Lori Sarvis, LCSW and certified sex therapist, receives numerous letters from men and women with questions about sex and sexuality. No topic is taboo, and she does her best to respond to each one. Send your questions to: dearsexpert@morefunwithsex.com
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