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ORAL OCTOBER

October is for oral sex. Use your tongue, lips and chin to creat the most wonderful sensations for your partner. Its like a party in your mouth.
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Dear Lori, I am so upset because my husband masturbates all day and all night. I feel its abnormal and I am surprised his hand hasn't fallen off. I catch him in the bathroom, on the patio, and on the couch watching pornos. I am disgusted and aggravated. I have told hin to stop, he says he will, but then I catch him again. Please help me. Digusted in Denver

Dear Disgusted,Masturbation is normal and healthy; however, anything done excessively may be a problem. If his masturbating has taken away time with you sexually or not, then there is a problem. Also, if he is masturbating in public or at home where others can see him,particularly children, he needs to address it. There may also be underlying issues of anxiety or depression. I would also want to know how your marriage is and if there have been problems with the two of you. Try to talk with him again, and if that does not work, I would recommend seeking out a sex therapist in your area.

Good luck

Lori

 

Dear Lori, , My wife does not like it when I want to touch her. I like to kiss her and fondle her whenver I can, but she pushes me away and tells me she is too busy washing the dishes or doing the laundrey. It seems she is always doing something around the house and there is little time for me. By the time we get into bed. she says she is too tired for sex. I am feeling I am the last one who gets any attention accept when she needs me to do something around the house. I have tried to be patient, but I am getting angry. I have tried to talk with her, but she says I am selfish and all I want is sex. I love my wife, I help around the house, but it seems its never enough. Lonely in Las Vegas

Dear Lonely, This is a very common problem and there are solutions if your wife is willing to listen. It seems men have a wonderful way of letting go of all the chores that need to be done or the worries that they may be thinking in order to have sex. I wish women could do this more easily. Women seem to see everything that needs to be done in the home accept their husbands. When I see a couple with this issue, I like to work with the woman separately in order to teach her to let go of the stressors and live in the moment. I also recommed that the couple stop doing things around the house early in the evening so that there is time for each other. Make sure you participate in taking care of your home. Sometimes, the way to a womans pussy is through taking out the garbage or cleaning the garage.

Lori Sarvis, LCSW and certified sex therapist, receives numerous letters from men and women with questions about sex and sexuality. No topic is taboo, and she does her best to respond to each one. Send your questions to: dearsexpert@morefunwithsex.com